Are You a Reject?

June 1st, 2010 by Administrator | No Comments | Filed in Confidence, Goals and Obstacles

Are You a Reject?

Do you ever hold yourself back because you are afraid of rejection from other people? Maybe you are afraid no one will buy your product or service so you don’t offer it, or you don’t take up swing dancing because you fear someone may laugh at or make fun of you. The fear of being rejected can paralyze you from doing what you want to do in life.

What you may not realize, though, is that by letting the fear of rejection from others stand in your way, you are being rejected by yourself (and that’s the worst kind of rejection).

When you choose to hold yourself back from achieving your goals you are rejecting yourself. You are saying NO to you. You aren’t even giving yourself the opportunity to be rejected by anyone else because you are telling yourself NO.

I don’t know about you, but I don’t want to be the one to reject myself!

Not only are you rejecting yourself, but you are rejecting the people on the planet that you are here to serve and help. Those people do not include anyone who would laugh at you, make fun of you, or reject you. By holding yourself back you are saying no to you and no to the people who need your help.

Don’t let the fear of what a tiny amount of people might say or do control you and stand in the way of saying YES to you and YES to the many, many, people you are here to serve!

Have you been rejecting yourself? Let me know below!

YOU GROW GIRL!
Brandi Hamrick
http://www.yougrowgirl.net

What’s Your Problem?

April 29th, 2010 by Administrator | No Comments | Filed in Goals and Obstacles, Stress, Uncategorized

Have you ever been in bed trying to sleep when a sliver of light comes under the door and seems to light up the entire room? Or maybe you’ve accidentally left a red sock in with your load of whites and all of your undies are pink from then on? Maybe you’ve made cookies and when you get them out of the oven and taste them, you immediately realize you forgot the sugar?

Much like darkness can’t exist with even a sliver of light, one red sock ruins your load of whites, and forgetting the sugar turns would-be delicious cookies into cardboard, sometimes you are closer to achieving your goals than you realize, but having one too many (or one too few) ingredients won’t allow you to succeed. Reaching your goal may be as simple as figuring out what that ingredient is and adding it (or taking it away).

It’s important to realize that when things aren’t happening the way you’d like them to, there is a reason. Usually that reason is that you are (probably subconsciously) either doing things that hinder your progress, or not doing something simple that would really push you in the right direction.

Here are a few common culprits:

1. Mindset
Playing the role of the victim, becoming a martyr, coming up with excuses, not thinking you are good enough, etc. These are all things that you could be doing that are hindering your progress. Pay attention to how you think and speak about success others have achieved and make sure you aren’t unintentionally adding hurdles to your path.

2. Heart
Make sure your goals come from your heart and soul and not your ego. Maybe you want to be a lawyer just because you think it will gain the respect of your friends and family and not because you enjoy law. This means you like the idea of practicing law more than actually practicing law.

3. Focus
Sometimes (especially for entrepreneurs) it is easy to lose focus. You may see potential in many areas and are spreading yourself too thin. Remember to set priorities about which goals are most important for you and focus on them.

4. Learn
If things aren’t working out like you planned, there could be a piece missing from the puzzle. In business this may mean a marketing strategy. If you can’t seem to run any faster, this may mean training. Perhaps you are tired and lethargic for no reason and you need to add nourishment through supplements and food. Remember to search for pieces that are missing from your puzzle and don’t be afraid to seek professional help.

When you aren’t succeeding at your goal, there is simply something not right. One super simple element may be missing or present (that shouldn’t be). Remember to search for holes and excess when on the path towards achieving your goals. Seek out experts in the field that you need help with that can bring clarity to the situation and spot your problems easily. Remember that there are people out there who have fun playing in areas that you consider problematic.

Reaching your goals can be as easy as adding sugar!

Brandi Hamrick

Don’t Take Your Vitamins or Supplements Within 15 Minutes of Drinking Caffeine!

April 28th, 2010 by Administrator | No Comments | Filed in Stress, health

I recently read about a study that showed that caffeine can block the absorption of vitamins and supplements. It was in my Shape magazine this month I believe. Anywho, it said to try to take your supplements with water and not to drink anything containing caffeine 15 mins before or after popping your pills.

This struck me as interesting because I have taken a multi and a few extra supplements for a while now, but back in January I started on a heavy-duty supplement regimen. I always took the pills with black tea because it was easier for me to get them down and it masked the taste some of them had.

After visiting a naturopath last month, I stopped drinking caffeine completely. He explained my adrenal glands were in a state of fatigue and that I had too much cortisol. He told me that stopping any caffeine intake would help me significantly. He was right. I felt a lot better within 3 days! It helped my adrenal glands stabilize, and on top of that, I am probably actually absorbing all of the nutrients from my vitamins and supplements! Hooray!

Brandi Hamrick

Get Out of Here!!! How to Have Your Next Big Breakthrough!

April 23rd, 2010 by Administrator | 2 Comments | Filed in Goals and Obstacles, Stress

With the weather warming up and flowers blooming, it’s the perfect time to take your thoughts and even work outside if you are able.

I love my office…I have it decorated the way I like and have inspirational things around me, but I have never had a huge epiphany regarding my business while sitting at my desk.

Great ideas come to us when we change up our surroundings and let our mind wander a bit from the norm.

Here are some ideas for ways you can experience your next big breakthrough:

1. Go on a walk. If you take walks regularly, go on a different path. Drive to a new neighborhood or nature path. If you don’t currently take walks, simply try taking one in your own neighborhood.

2. Use your own back yard. Sometimes it’s surprising how little we use our own outdoor spaces. Turn a corner of your yard into your own oasis with a comfy chair, hammock, or even some meditation pillows. Go there the next time you need to read or write a report, or to simply relax.

3. Make your favorite sidewalk cafe your new office for the afternoon. Use that outside corner table with the umbrella as your desk for a few hours. You will be stimulated by your new surroundings and by the people around.

These ideas are especially beneficial for those of us who work at home, but changing things up can work for anyone in any profession!

You Grow Girl!
Brandi Hamrick

Are You An Oddball? How Being an Oddball Can Help You Succeed!

April 16th, 2010 by Administrator | No Comments | Filed in Goals and Obstacles, Stress, Time Management, health

Did you know that only 1% of people make over 350K a year? That means that 99% make less than that. If you want to be in that top one percent, that means you have to think and act differently that 99% of people. You have to go against the grain, and that probably means doing things in a different way than most people you know and are are around.

I love this statistic because it creates a mindset shift, not only about money, but about all areas of your life. Maybe you have no desire to make 350K a year. Maybe you just want to make a comfortable living while staying home and working less. Maybe money and business isn’t your end goal at all. Maybe you want to achieve optimal health, reach a fitness goal, or get a degree. You still need to act differently than people who are not doing whatever it is you want to do.

Whatever your “end goal” happens to be, you can rest assure that going against the grain and being an “oddball” will help you get there faster.

Health
Are most of the people you know healthy? And by healthy, I mean really healthy (energized, not sick very often, at a good weight, get enough sleep, not moody, etc.)… not the American definition of healthy. Most people opt to live with mediocre health and see a doctor when they are sick, then get a shot and some antibiotics. Chances are, if you want to have optimal health, you will have to incorporate dietary, lifestyle, and exercise habits into your daily life in order to prevent disease in the first place. This may mean you choose to go for a walk instead of watching TV, eat a salad when you would rather have fried chicken, and seek the help of other health professionals (nutritionists, personal trainers, naturopathic doctors, holistic doctors, etc.). You have to go against the grain and do things differently than the majority of people you know.

Biz
In business, if you want to achieve huge success, you have to plan on being a huge success right from the start. You want to play big and reach as many people as possible. You don’t want to stay small and mediocre…everyone else is doing that!

Academic Goals
We all know of “Bill Gates” types of stories where someone quit college and then went on to open a very successful business. And, maybe for some people, this is going against the grain. But, for some professions, you must obtain a degree to have a license to work (doctors, nurses, teachers, etc.). If your goal is to finish college for whatever reason, you must do things differently than the people who are flunking classes and dropping out. This may mean that you have to spend weekends studying while others are out partying. It also may mean you sacrifice other areas of your life for just a little while to see your end goal.

If your goal isn’t to get a degree, but to advance your life and business, you still need to stay on top of what’s happening in your industry. This may mean being a part of networking groups, going to seminars, and reading related magazines and journals when you’d rather be going to a movie.

I am not saying that you should never have leisure time. On the contrary, having “real” leisure time (really relaxing and not having the crackberry and laptop out) is crucial to success. And, by the way, it’s different than what most people do. Having dedicated work time and dedicated leisure time is a must, just be sure the two don’t overlap.

You have probably heard sayings about it “being lonely at the top.” Some people may regard this statement as putting yourself above others, but what I think it means is that you are on top of your biggest goals and dreams (your hearts desire). You will not let anything or anyone get in your way. You may have to decline social events at times, get past fear, and do things differently than most people you know, but it will payoff big-time when you achieve those goals!

So the next time you find yourself at home on a Saturday night studying, leaving your family for the weekend to go to a seminar, or asking for dressing on the side of that salad while your friend has the cheeseburger, relax… and own your oddball status!

You Grow Girl!
Brandi Hamrick
www.yougrowgirl.net

Quick Tip of The Week: Use Savvy Scheduling to Lose Weight!

March 9th, 2010 by Administrator | No Comments | Filed in Goals and Obstacles, Time Management, health

Here’s good news for planners who like to have a “routine” and schedule everything from vacations to meals….

A study from the Salk Institute for Biological Studies in La Jolla, California reports that mice who ate at the same time everyday and fasted for 12 hours at night turned on genes that burned more sugar and fat than mice who weren’t on the routine.

This supports the theory that humans who follow similar eating habits would do the same!

You Grow Girl!
Brandi Hamrick

It Is What It Is!

March 9th, 2010 by Administrator | 2 Comments | Filed in Stress

Have you ever noticed that we live in a society where everything is either good or bad, right or wrong?

The next time you have a conversation with someone (or listen in on one) notice how every topic is immediately put into categories: right or wrong, good or bad. Everyone usually jumps in during the discussion to tell their opinion of whether they think the topic of interest is good or bad, right or wrong.

While your listening, pay special attention to see if there is any person who doesn’t “label” the situation (there probably isn’t).

Have you ever listened to a conversation about death, divorce, or a layoff? These topics are always good or bad, right or wrong, and may even change categories in just a few seconds. Here are some examples:

*Some friends are sitting around talking about their other friend’s divorce. It’s so “bad” because she had signed a pre-nup 20 years ago and has devoted her entire life to raising her children. She is left with no money and no career. This is BAD…Until one friend points out that being dirt poor would be better than living one more day with that scum bag hubby…BAM the divorce is now GOOD, just like that!

*Susan has lost her job and the company has gone under. She is left with no benefits, retirement, or severance…things are BAD…Until she realizes she will finally be free to write that book she has been putting off for years…then BAM things are good.

Do these transitions sound familiar?

You may be asking, “But Brandi, isn’t it good to find the silver lining? Aren’t we supposed to make lemons out of lemonade?”

Of course it’s always good if you can find the positive out of any situation you are faced with, but here’s the problem: sometimes we are so quick to “label” things that we bounce back from good or bad, right or wrong again and again. This drains us physically and emotionally. In these cases it would be more beneficial to say the situation just “is what it is,” and let it be. This allows you to lift yourself out of the problem and see it from a place where you can make a rational decision.


Labeling things good or bad, right or wrong immediately gets your emotions involved, and, quite frankly, some things just aren’t worth getting your emotions involved!

It’s just easier for our minds to process things when we can throw them into a category or put a label on them. The truth is, though, most things aren’t black or white…they are gray.

This is good to keep in mind if you are running a business because you know that your clients and customers think you are either good or bad, right or wrong (hopefully good and right ;) ). Even people who have raved about you and your business for years can chunk you into the bad and wrong category in 20 seconds flat after a rude intern answers your phone.

However, it may benefit you to practice taking the label off of things yourself. The next time something happens, try not to judge it right away. It could be possible that it isn’t good or bad, it just is what it is!

Let’s practice:

-You get a flat tire. You can cry, cus, and whine about it (letting your anger get the best of you) or you can say “it is what it is” and read a book until AAA gets there.

-You find out a friend isn’t who you think she is. You can cry, gossip, and think about it constantly (while driving yourself crazy in the process and still not getting any answers), or you can say “it is what it is” and put your energy into something you can control.

For the next week, try not to judge anything or throw a label on situations too quickly. You will probably find this way of life easier and a lot less stressful. Maybe it just “Is What It Is!”

You Grow, Girl!
Brandi Hamrick

Take Your Belly Breaths!

March 2nd, 2010 by Administrator | No Comments | Filed in Stress

If you’ve ever done yoga, pilates, or studied meditation, you’ve probably heard the term “deep belly breaths.” They are the type of breathing where you fill your lower abdomen with air on inhale and then flatten the air out on exhale. For most of us, our “normal” way to breathe is to actually do the opposite of that and suck in our stomachs and take in shallow breaths.

Breathing deeply has tons of benefits including: supplying more oxygen to the body so that we are more alert and energized, helping supply our organs with more air and stimulate the lymphatic system in order to help our immune system, and relax.

If you are interested in learning more about how to do belly breathing or want to learn more about the benefits, simply do a google on deep belly breathing and you will have enough info to keep you busy for a while.

In the meantime, simply be aware of your breathing. Set your watch or phone to go off every hour and take 5-10 deep belly breaths.

Another fun fact: Have you ever seen the little ancient Chinese figurines that are slim all over but have big swollen bellies? They aren’t fat. Their bellies are meant to symbolize the fact that they are breathing properly and have air in their bellies!

Brandi Hamrick
www.thequeenbcoach.com

The Keys to Your Future

March 2nd, 2010 by Administrator | No Comments | Filed in Goals and Obstacles, Organization, Time Management

Here are the 3 Keys to Getting What You Want From Your Future:

1. Vision
Set aside a certain amount of time to dream and vision about the future. Vision your outcome, write down your goals, etc. Just make sure to keep that time in check. You should be visioning for just a little while each day to pump you up so that you have lots of energy and steam to achieve those goals. However, spending tons of time dreaming and no time doing will leave you right where you are now and your future will never come.

2. Plan
Once you know what you want from your future, it’s time to plan out how you will get there. Break big goals into small mini-goals (example: a small step for being on Oprah may be to tackle local news stations first so that you are well-prepared for the big league). Then break those mini goals into smaller steps. Planning for your future is not a waste of time. In fact, it has been shown that for every minute you spend on planning, you get at least 10 times that back in the future because you have a concrete plan and are not wondering around aimlessly. It’s easy to see how spending just 10 minutes each day on planning will really pay off in the future.

3. Do
The best way to get the future you desire? Take action. Once you’ve dreamed and planned, actually do the work it takes to get what you want from your future. Let the fear of failure and rejection go and put those plans into action!

Follow this simple 3 Step Process now and you will achieve your goals and be living your dream in no time!

Brandi Hamrick
www.thequeenbcoach.com

Just Say No!

February 25th, 2010 by Administrator | No Comments | Filed in Goals and Obstacles, Organization, Stress, Time Management

Feeling stressed or overwhelmed? If you feel like you don’t have enough time to do everything you need to do, then you are saying yes to things you shouldn’t. We all have enough time to accomplish everything that we need to, so look over your list and see what you can say NO to.

Remember, you have time to do anything you actually need or want to do, just not EVERYTHING under the sun!

Brandi Hamrick
The “Queen B” Coach
www.thequeenbcoach.com

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